September 20, 2019
DISCLAIMER AND WARNING
If you fear for your life and fear that your abuser would attempt to kill you for researching the subject of domestic violence, then get off of your computer NOW! Erase your browser history and anything else that you can think of. Leave no trace of ARE YOU IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP?
This does not mean that you cannot or that you should not do your research. Please, just use a friend or family members computer or a public library computer. Never bring brochures, fliers or business cards into your car or home that have to do with domestic violence or escape from an abuser, either.
ABUSERS ARE SNEAKY. BE ALERT.
Abusers are calculated and creative, when necessary. My ex-spouse sent me to a local spa and allowed me to get a facial, massage and get the full treatment on my hair. I thought that he was being kind and loving to me. When I came home, I thought that everything seemed normal and just as I left it. However, the kids told me that he had torn the house apart while I was gone; he had emptied my closets, gone through my shoes, taken off mattresses, gone through all of my drawers and boxes looking for anything that I may have stashed in preparation for leaving him. That included the money that I had been hiding to help me pay to get out. He put in the work and found everything that I had hidden–he just needed me out of the house for an extended period of time.
NEVER underestimate an abuser and do not feel bad for doubting any kindness that they extend to you–especially if they are intelligent. Intelligent people can be very sneaky on a more complex level.
You may think that you have been super brilliant at hiding things away, but they manage to find ways… be one step ahead and protect yourself and, if you have children, protect your children by using some survival smarts.
I hope that this portion of my blog can help you with that. So, use wisdom and click through to find anything that can help you out for your situation. Please add questions in any of the comment section and I will try to give you a helpful response; in the very least, I will do what I can to point you in a helpful direction. If you think that you are in an abusive relationship, please seek help, immediately. There are so many people who are willing to provide assistance.
Prayer helps open (and close) doors. Add prayers requests in the comment sections. Pray for those contributing to the comment sections, as well.
Blessings in your journey –