Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Quality Time, Physical Touch, and Receiving Gifts: These are the five love languages as described and theorized by pastor Gary Chapman. The love language theory has been a relationship staple for nearly thirty years. It’s popularity is in part because of it’s simple and very relatable approach to each persons unique longing (or needs) in relationships. Valentine’s Day gifts based on love languages is a must save post!

Choosing a gift based on your partner’s love language makes it more meaningful right from the outset. Taking the time to understand your partner and tailor their gift to who they are is an expression of love, itself.

Understanding your partner or loved ones love language is so important. Responding to them in the way that they receive love is such a selfless act. I had a situation that could have been avoided if the person cared to understand me and love me how I received love. I am not a cut flower person. It is not that I don’t find them beautiful or fragrant. I do, occasionally, buy flowers for the dinner table. But, I do not want someone to buy me flowers as a gift. Watching them die and fade away seems like such wasted money, to me. And, I have been very expressive about this fact.

My ex-husband was a very apathetic person. He didn’t put effort into much of anything. And, he did not put any effort into holidays, especially. He came home one day with one singular cut rose and was kind of like, “here…here ya go…” I will admit, I was angry about it, and I did not respond or react well. I had experienced years of this and our marriage wasn’t doing so well at the time…so, I got very mad. The flower was not really for me; it was for him.

What did I mean by the flower being for him?

He chose to buy me the easiest, most cliche, most effortless gift choice that he could. AND, cut flowers was a gift that I had voiced many, many times that I would not want to receive. So, he was just grabbing something to check off a box. No thought or effort or consideration.

If he needed something cheap and easy and effortless, but done with love and consideration, he could have done that.

What are the best Valentine’s gifts for someones love language? Find out the perfect Valentine’s Day gift based on your partner’s love language below!

VALENTINE’S GIFTS FOR WORDS OF AFFIRMATION: GIFT IDEAS

Words of Affirmation – Gifts That Speak From the Heart

Meaningful gifts for the partner whose love language is Words of Affirmation are those gifts that affirm our partners. The definition of Affirm is to state as a fact or to assert something strongly and publicly. Who doesn’t enjoy love notes or a public post on social media telling the world how much we are loved and appreciated?

Below are gift ideas for the partner whose love language is Words of Affirmation (and, if you have any additional ideas, please add them in the comment section below)

• A handwritten love letter or poem
• A personalized book with reasons you love them
• A voice-recorded message or custom song
• A framed print of their favorite love quote
• A social media post openly expressing your love and gratitude to and for your partner

VALENTINE’S GIFTS FOR ACTS OF SERVICE: GIFT IDEAS

Acts of Service – Gifts That Show You Care

Thoughtful gifts for the partner whose main love language is Acts of Service are those gifts that show effort in planning and preparation. The worst thing that you can do for someone who identifies with this love language is to not do anything at all–or to not put effort into what you do choose to do.

Below are gift ideas for the partner whose love language is Acts of Service (and, if you have any additional ideas, please add them in the comment section below)

• Breakfast in bed or cooking their favorite meal
• Completing a task they’ve been dreading (car wash, home project)
• A DIY coupon book (massage, chore-free day, “your choice” night)
• Subscription to a meal delivery service

VALENTINE’S GIFTS FOR QUALITY TIME: GIFT IDEAS

Quality Time – Gifts That Create Memories

The partner who feels deeply loved when their loved ones give them their time will appreciate those gifts that require that you share your undivided attention with them. This person just wants to be with you; and, they want to know that you want to be with them, too.

Below are Valentine’s Day date or gift ideas for the partner whose love language is Quality Time (and, if you have any additional ideas, please add them in the comment section below)

• A surprise day trip or weekend getaway
• A DIY at-home date night kit (games, snacks, movie)
• A couples’ class (cooking, dancing, art)
• A scrapbook of your best memories together
• An evening of candlelight and deep conversation

VALENTINE’S GIFTS FOR PHYSICAL TOUCH: GIFT IDEAS

Physical Touch – Gifts That Strengthen Connection

People with the physical touch love language does not necessarily mean that the person longs for skin to skin touch. Gifts can be things that are comforting to the tough; gifts that are very cozy and comforting.

Below are Valentine’s Day date or gift ideas for the partner whose love language is Physical Touch (and, if you have any additional ideas, please add them in the comment section below)

• A cozy weighted blanket or soft robe
• A couple’s massage kit with scented oils
• A “touch jar” with handwritten ways to give physical affection
• Matching pajamas or a cuddle-friendly couch throw

VALENTINE’S GIFTS FOR RECEIVING GIFTS: GIFT IDEAS

Receiving Gifts – Thoughtful Surprises They’ll Love

Receiving gifts has to be at the top of most peoples lists. It is such an amazing feeling to be given gifts. But, it is not everyones top love language; and for some, it is at the very top of their lists. Best Valentine’s gifts do not have to be luxury gifts. Meaningful presents are those that touch deeply the heart of those whose love language is Receiving Gifts.

Below are Valentine’s Day date or gift ideas for the partner whose love language is Receiving Gifts (and, if you have any additional ideas, please add them in the comment section below)

• A personalized piece of jewelry or keychain
• A subscription box (beauty, self-care, snacks, books)
• A surprise gift that aligns with their hobbies (tech gadget, book, art supplies)
• A heartfelt, surprise bouquet or small luxury item

WHY LOVE LANGUAGE GIFTS ARE A BLESSING

Buying Valentine’s gifts that match your partner’s love language is important because it ensures that your gift truly resonates with them and makes them feel loved in the way they naturally receive love. Matching your gift to their love language makes Valentine’s Day feel more personal, thoughtful, and fulfilling for both of you!

What are some very memorable Valentine’s Day gifts that you have given or received that met a love language? Please comment below!

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